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Bee again. Lets talk about teen moms. According to americanspcc.org/teenmoms, 3 in 10 American girls will get pregnant before the age of 20 that is roughly 30 percent. I am part of that statistic. As much as I hate being part of that statistic, I am proud to be a teen mom. Yes, some days I want to go back and rethink of every choice I made as a teenager, but then again I wouldn't be the person I am today. When I was in high school let me tell ya'll I felt like I was at the top of my game. I participated in Soccer, was in varsity and was dating the number one wrestler in our school. Oh man, let me tell you guys I thought I was the hottest thing on the planet. It was all fun and games until we started having unprotected sex and I wasn't on birth control. We thought we were being careful and when I wanted to take a plan B pill he manipulated by telling me that if I took it he would leave me. First of all now that I'm older ughhhh BIG RED FLAG.! A man should not manipulate you by telling you he will leave if you don't do what he wants. Those behaviors should not be tolerated. If your bf is telling you things like that leave before it gets worse. I didn't end up taking it and guess what 9 months later I was blessed with a beautiful baby girl named Sophia. She is now 8 years old and is so sassy. The hardship of having a newborn the summer before senior year let me tell you guys. I missed out on EVERYTHING. My friends were going out shopping, bonfires, hanging out daily and going to soccer practice, while I was feeding and changing diapers. A child raising a child. When ever I hear that phrase, I swear I want to sit in a dark room and cry because it is not any more true. Baby blues are real. I suffered from anxiety due to having a child at such a young age and had to figure out how to cope with it for a long time. Senior year was suppose to be the best year, but instead of living it up like every young girl should get to do so, I was home with a baby. The hardship of having a little one and going to school is that it is only 100x harder because homework is non stop and so is a baby. I cannot thank my parents enough for helping me through senior year and helping me graduate. Without them I would of been lost. I started working half way through my senior year to help pay with cost of child care and other baby expenses. Who knew babies were so expensive? They never taught me that in school. Moving forward, I wouldn't trade my daughter for anything she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I swear I'm a better person because of her. Yes, I might be a statistic, but I'm more than that I'm a bad a** teen mom. To every teen mom my advice to you is. NEVER give up on anything. You want to finish high school, DO IT. You CAN DO IT. If I did, YOU can too. You want to go to college. DO IT. You want to become a dentist/accountant/doctor/nurse/CNA/RDH/Engineer/ComputerTech/Scientist DO IT. All is possible if you set the right goals, are motivated, and acknowledge that there are people who will help you achieve all the goals you set. Remember that when you want to give up (because I know that I did many times) there is a set of eyes watching up to you. Do it for them because they deserve the sun and the stars. Being a teen mom taught me so many things. It taught me that the real world is harsh, but there are people who genuinely care about you and the baby. So please I ask NEVER to give up and dream big because those dreams do come true with the right goals and the people you know. The right people will get you to the right places. (FYI a little advice from my former coworker DR. F.) I hope one day my daughter realizes that all those sleepless hours studying and working to get that daily bread were to give her the best. Because when you become a mom that's all you want for the LO.

Always,

Bee